Should WFH Be Limited?

I’m sipping from a “You are a good mom. That’s All.” mug enjoying an oddly quiet Saturday morning in my busy house following a fairly busy work week. My mind is on work and how grateful I am for the flexibility to work from home (which is often shown as WFH), especially in weeks like this one was.

And then, this comes across my LinkedIn feed. 

More bosses limiting WFH with kids

LinkedIn News

Work From Home Mom Thoughts:

To be honest, I do not know how I feel about this. I don’t know if writing about it will help or cause a stir. But to be honest, I also know where I stand as an employee who might just be addicted to work and a mama bear who has her feelings, too. 

I feel like I juggled a few plates the past three weeks with what my kids (all in school full-time, no longer with a caregiver due to the very low need for care) threw at me. There were two times that 1-2 of them were home for school shutdowns due to COVID % rates. There were two times the (same) kid was sick with two completely different things. 

And I feel like I still gave pretty close to 110% to my client, employer, and team. There were 1:1’s that had to happen in the parking lot between Dr/COVID tests and Rx pickups, yes. There were two late night and one early morning deployments. There was a project launch, three UAT handoffs, welcoming a new member to the team, and a work dinner.

Am I tired? Yes. Am I committed to being a good mom and a good worker? Yes. Do I need full-time care for my kids when we hit these crazy weeks where 4 out of the 15 work days felt like disasters and then nothing (fingers, toes crossed) happens again until the next semester? I surely don’t think so. 

What Does Kid Care Look Like for Me?

Don’t get me wrong – I love my tribe but no one is going to handle a sick Isla [bell-ringing girl child] like I can. And as a manager, I have to say I hope all my female reports and peers feel me sending them all the strength when they have to do the same. 

But do I also get why this is so important? HECK YES. There is no way I could have worked remotely from 2008-2020 while my kids weren’t in school [without the help of their caregiver, dad, and grandparents]. My kids, God love them, are demanding, clingy, and also little adults (this week Isla learned how to do page layouts in Salesforce and asked me to let her be my worker any time I need to adjust one).

At 4, Evan gave me a Busy Beaver ad with a door circled and said my office (at the time) needed it so he would leave me alone. And my kids GET IT that mom works – they abide by the “is mom available” wheel on my door – but not all situations are the same as ours.

Either way, I completely agree with this image from Lainey Molar (on Instagram).

So where did all this ranting lead me? Practically nowhere because I see both sides of this coin and why rules have to be in place. And it also makes me wonder if I should start logging some Saturday morning hours since I’ve still not heard a peep from their side of the house, but I think for now I’ll just go back to scrolling LinkedIn to celebrate my fellow rock stars and get inspired to start studying for my next exam…because a certain set of twins just walked in demanding bacon. Of course.

2018 Word of the Year: Worthy

Blog posts on this site may contain affiliate links, which means I may receive commissions if you choose to purchase through links I provide (at no extra cost to you). Read my full disclosure and privacy policy here  Every year for the past few years, instead of making resolutions, I’ve set a word of the year to put some intentions around my choices. This year is no different, other than the fact it probably was the toughest year to come up with a word.

2018 Word of the Year: Worthy

This year, I gravitated toward worthy as my word of the year. As in, “I am worthy of my dreams”. If I can grasp that feeling, I feel like I could be unstoppable in so many aspects of my life.

To truly embrace this word, I’m going to have to think through my decisions and determine is each one worthy of my time, space, and energy? Before I hit publish. Before I hit send. Before I go for that run. Before I add another weight. Before I say yes. Because for me to know that I am worthy of the blessings God has in store for me this year, I need to feel that my choices are in line with what matters most in my life.

Even taking that picture, I was had to wonder if it was worthy of adding to my online presence. Did I print it just right? Was the lighting okay? Was it going to make me feel like my dreams were in reach? Yes.

Why Do I Need to Feel Worthy?

If you know me, you might wonder how on earth I could feel like I am not good enough. You see the good job, the house, the marriage, the kids. What you don’t see are the feelings I have about being uninvited, unaccepted, an imposter. Yes, I feel these things way more often than I let on.

Even though the Bible tells me “This is evidence of the righteous judgment of God, that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God” (2 Thessalonians 1:5), I still sometimes don’t feel like I am just quite worthy. Crazy, right? Time to put my listening cap on and let this sink in.

That I am worthy of being blessed with four kids to take care of. That I am worthy of a marriage to a man who truly loves me even though I still carry hurt and pain from my past. That I am worthy of a job with a company that doesn’t make me feel like a number. That I am worthy of the debt-free life we can see on the horizon. That I am worthy of blessings from my Thirty-One business. That I am worthy of the medals that hang in my living room and the changes my body is making as I get stronger every day. I am worthy. 

I feel like if I can embrace that, then looking at each decision as it comes my way and asking myself, “is this worthy of my time, space, and energy” will keep me on a path to continue accepting the trials and blessings God has in store for 2018.

Have you set a word of the year for 2018? What is it and have you posted about it? Please share with me below! 

A Fresh Start

Hello, 2018! My hope and prayer for this year is that I will be able to have a fresh start with my writing and perhaps narrow down the site where you originally know (and hopefully LOVE) me from.


A Fresh Start

I’ve been thinking for awhile that it was time to move my first successful blog, lil Burghers, to be more niche and focused on all things kiddo / Pittsburgh related. There is going to be some transition time as I work to establish myself here on this page, so I ask that you stick with me on both to help as I learn and grow.

This fresh start will allow me to bring you more of ME. You’ll still hear about the kids and Greg from time to time, but this is really going to become my outlet. There are so many things I want to get out of this blog – mostly I want people to know that they can be a busy mom and not just survive but thrive. This will be a place I can unashamedly share my stories of fitness and faith and maybe even some food. Family and fun will still have their time here, don’t you worry. But this place will be more me and it’s what I need to roll with as we start this year. A fresh start!

About Me

So maybe you’ve stumbled on this site by accident or don’t really know me that well. Let’s start off this blog with a short intro. I’m a Pittsburgh suburb mom of four (including a set of twin tornadoes) who works full-time as a Salesforce Administrator during the day then becomes a Stay-At-Home mom when my husband heads out the door to work in the evenings. We’re slashing our debt the Dave Ramsey way, with gazelle intensity. You’ll notice me talking about “life in the 40%” every so often – that’s because I’m the primary breadwinner (though this is changing up a bit recently), making us in the 40% of US homes where the woman is the breadwinner.

In the evenings, between wrangling getting the four kids to and from activities and keeping the craziness to a minimum, I find time for myself with CrossFit, blogging, and running three small businesses (all of which are linked in the menu!). I can’t forget my running – I’m a distance runner who has only been running for the last five years but has done two Half Marathons, a double leg of the Marathon Relay, two 10-Milers, two Mud on the Mountains, and several other 5k races. I’d love to be an inspiration for those of you “back of packers” – you totally got this! And finally, I keep tabs on my eating, too. In 2011, I was nearly 300 pounds and was able to lose 131 of that before getting pregnant with the twins. I’m almost back there thanks to Whole30, Ketosis, and CrossFit/Running.

I was raised a Preacher’s Kid in the United Methodist Church and still am active in church (although now I’m active with the Assembly of God). You’re going to hear about my faith journey (there’s a lot of hills and valleys that brought me here) and hopefully, we’ll get a chance to do some Bible Journaling together, too.

It feels so great to kick the year off with a fresh start, doesn’t it? Check out tomorrow’s post to see what my intentions for 2018 (my word of the year) will be, then keep coming back to hear more about how I keep busy while thriving.



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