I’m sipping from a “You are a good mom. That’s All.” mug enjoying an oddly quiet Saturday morning in my busy house following a fairly busy work week. My mind is on work and how grateful I am for the flexibility to work from home (which is often shown as WFH), especially in weeks like this one was.
And then, this comes across my LinkedIn feed.
More bosses limiting WFH with kidsLinkedIn News
Work From Home Mom Thoughts:
To be honest, I do not know how I feel about this. I don’t know if writing about it will help or cause a stir. But to be honest, I also know where I stand as an employee who might just be addicted to work and a mama bear who has her feelings, too.
I feel like I juggled a few plates the past three weeks with what my kids (all in school full-time, no longer with a caregiver due to the very low need for care) threw at me. There were two times that 1-2 of them were home for school shutdowns due to COVID % rates. There were two times the (same) kid was sick with two completely different things.
And I feel like I still gave pretty close to 110% to my client, employer, and team. There were 1:1’s that had to happen in the parking lot between Dr/COVID tests and Rx pickups, yes. There were two late night and one early morning deployments. There was a project launch, three UAT handoffs, welcoming a new member to the team, and a work dinner.
Am I tired? Yes. Am I committed to being a good mom and a good worker? Yes. Do I need full-time care for my kids when we hit these crazy weeks where 4 out of the 15 work days felt like disasters and then nothing (fingers, toes crossed) happens again until the next semester? I surely don’t think so.
What Does Kid Care Look Like for Me?
Don’t get me wrong – I love my tribe but no one is going to handle a sick Isla [bell-ringing girl child] like I can. And as a manager, I have to say I hope all my female reports and peers feel me sending them all the strength when they have to do the same.
But do I also get why this is so important? HECK YES. There is no way I could have worked remotely from 2008-2020 while my kids weren’t in school [without the help of their caregiver, dad, and grandparents]. My kids, God love them, are demanding, clingy, and also little adults (this week Isla learned how to do page layouts in Salesforce and asked me to let her be my worker any time I need to adjust one).
At 4, Evan gave me a Busy Beaver ad with a door circled and said my office (at the time) needed it so he would leave me alone. And my kids GET IT that mom works – they abide by the “is mom available” wheel on my door – but not all situations are the same as ours.
Either way, I completely agree with this image from Lainey Molar (on Instagram).
So where did all this ranting lead me? Practically nowhere because I see both sides of this coin and why rules have to be in place. And it also makes me wonder if I should start logging some Saturday morning hours since I’ve still not heard a peep from their side of the house, but I think for now I’ll just go back to scrolling LinkedIn to celebrate my fellow rock stars and get inspired to start studying for my next exam…because a certain set of twins just walked in demanding bacon. Of course.